Tuesday, October 12, 2010

LDS Church's Official Position On Gays = Respect For All

I love the great way that the church leaders express love and respect for even those people with whom they disagree about core human values, beliefs, and behaviors.  I so appreciate that they are not silent on this and other issues, because whether we like it or not the top leadership sets the tone that gets a little bit distorted all the way down the line to the rank and file membership.  The more clear the leaders are, and the more often they express themselves, the less distortion filters down.  Great job, LDS Church, for this latest press release.  I have cut and copied it here in its entirety.  I apologize for copyright infringements, etc. 

Church Responds to HRC Petition


The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints issued the following statement through a spokesman following the delivery of a petition by the Human Rights Campaign:

My name is Michael Otterson. I am here representing the leadership of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to address the matter of the petition presented today by the Human Rights Campaign.

While we disagree with the Human Rights Campaign on many fundamentals, we also share some common ground. This past week we have all witnessed tragic deaths across the country as a result of bullying or intimidation of gay young men.  We join our voice with others in unreserved condemnation of acts of cruelty or attempts to belittle or mock any group or individual that is different – whether those differences arise from race, religion, mental challenges, social status, sexual orientation or for any other reason.  Such actions simply have no place in our society.

This Church has felt the bitter sting of persecution and marginalization early in our history, when we were too few in numbers to adequately protect ourselves and when society’s leaders often seemed disinclined to help.  Our parents, young adults, teens and children should therefore, of all people, be especially sensitive to the vulnerable in society and be willing to speak out against bullying or intimidation whenever it occurs, including unkindness toward those who are attracted to others of the same sex. This is particularly so in our own Latter-day Saint congregations. Each Latter-day Saint family and individual should carefully consider whether their attitudes and actions toward others properly reflect Jesus Christ’s second great commandment - to love one another.

As a church, our doctrinal position is clear: any sexual activity outside of marriage is wrong, and we define marriage as between a man and a woman. However, that should never, ever be used as justification for unkindness. Jesus Christ, whom we follow, was clear in His condemnation of sexual immorality, but never cruel.  His interest was always to lift the individual, never to tear down.

Further, while the Church is strongly on the record as opposing same-sex marriage, it has openly supported other rights for gays and lesbians such as protections in housing or employment.

The Church’s doctrine is based on love. We believe that our purpose in life is to learn, grow and develop, and that God’s unreserved love enables each of us to reach our potential. None of us is limited by our feelings or inclinations. Ultimately, we are free to act for ourselves.

The Church recognizes that those of its members who are attracted to others of the same sex experience deep emotional, social and physical feelings. The Church distinguishes between feelings or inclinations on the one hand and behavior on the other. It’s not a sin to have feelings, only in yielding to temptation.

There is no question that this is difficult, but Church leaders and members are available to help lift, support and encourage fellow members who wish to follow Church doctrine. Their struggle is our struggle. Those in the Church who are attracted to someone of the same sex but stay faithful to the Church’s teachings can be happy during this life and perform meaningful service in the Church. They can enjoy full fellowship with other Church members, including attending and serving in temples, and ultimately receive all the blessings afforded to those who live the commandments of God.

Obviously, some will disagree with us. We hope that any disagreement will be based on a full understanding of our position and not on distortion or selective interpretation. The Church will continue to speak out to ensure its position is accurately understood.

God’s universal fatherhood and love charges each of us with an innate and reverent acknowledgment of our shared human dignity.  We are to love one another. We are to treat each other with respect as brothers and sisters and fellow children of God, no matter how much we may differ from one another. 

We hope and firmly believe that within this community, and in others, kindness, persuasion and goodwill can prevail.

6 comments:

Laura said...

I hadn't read this yet. This is so well put. Thanks.

phfrahm said...

Well stated, but seems to exclude those who form a committed relationship with each other including a sexual relationship. That means all homosexual persons must lead a celibate life, hard indeed.

Steve Frahm said...

Yes, I think you are right about that. The burden of a homosexual within the LDS church is tremendous.

The Church's statement also seems to exclude those who would want to have a "polyamorous" lifestyle, even if they have a committed marriage. For many people, that proves to be an overwhelming challenge, too.

I have always bristled against the hard-limits, the inflexible rules that some people place on others. As my father, I am sure that does not surprise you! :-)

What impresses me about this statement by the LDS Church's leadership is their call for civility, kindness, respect, and their disavowal of the mean-spirited behavior that each of us is capable of using toward one-another.

Our nation's political leaders are now, more than ever, engaged in polarized and mean-spirited behavior. I am grateful to have church leaders that can and do demonstrate a more evolved morality: disagree, but also love one another.

ashley said...

i echo your senitments steve. i think it is great how the church calls for love for everyone. while i don't agree with the homosexual lifestyle, i do not think that we should be unkind and uncivil. we should always follow the saviors example and be kind and loving and merciful! although, it is difficult at times and i am not talking about against gays, just in life in general. it is always a journey that needs tweeking! at least in my experience. thanks for sharing.

Steve Frahm said...

Thanks for the comment, Ash. You put it quite well, "a journey that needs tweeking." When I'm not blindly content in my own short-comings and pigheadedness, I realize my own need for soooo many tweaks. You have great insight -- yours is a very lucky family!

phfrahm said...

Appreciate your further comments, Steve. And certainly like Ashley's "tweaks". Don't we all need them. Sort of makes you appreciate the Grace of God, doesn't it?
love,
Dad